Erectile dysfunction is a common condition that affects men everywhere – but it also affects their partners. In fact, people whose partners struggle with erectile dysfunction or ED (defined as the inability to achieve or maintain an erection to the desired level) may feel hurt, rejected, or suspicious – and some may even blame themselves for the situation.

We wanted to spark honest dialogue about this difficult subject, as well as to understand how ED affects women in relationships with ED sufferers, so we asked 1,000 men and 1,000 women to share their ED-related experiences via a survey. How do women feel when their partners suffer from erectile dysfunction? How do they broach the subject with their partners? And, most important, what helps them navigate this challenging issue in their relationship? See what our male and female respondents had to say on the subject.